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twistedsister - talk to her school counselor first. they will help direct you to the proper facility for counseling.

alot of kids are doing this, they call themselves "emos" (short for emotional), parts of it is following the crowd, part of it is teenage angst and part of it seems to be some issues that are in need of attention from a professional.

do it today, yesterday, whatever it takes before she goes too far........good luck

My heart goes out to you twistedsister. I went through the same thing with my 12 year old daughter last year. It breaks your heart when your own child does something like this. She was hiding it from me, but one day we were sitting at the dinner table when she got very mad at me and started clawing at her neck. I told her to stop and when she wouldn't I got up to grab her arms when she said ouch and I pulled up her sleeves and saw the cuts. The only thing I could do was sit back down and cry. I asked why? She said she wanted to hurt. She wanted to feel pain. I still can't understand it, but I put her in counseling right away and it helped us. It took awhile, we had to check her every morning and evening. Making sure the cuts were disappearing,and we did not just look at the arms and neck anymore. We had to check everywhere. I am not sure where you live, but I had her at the Nord Center. They saved my daughter. You say you have had your daughter in counseling before, you need to keep looking until you find one that works. You can't stop at just one, two, or three. I was lucky with finding one the first time. I wish you all the luck and and pray you can find the right help now!! Keep us posted.

survivormom i am in madison lake county

Some kids do cut because they are following the crowd but for the few that are actually cutting it is not to hurt themselves it is because it makes them feel better. It feels like when the cut the bad emotions they are feeling leave their body threw the cut therefore causing them to cut more, kind of like a high people get from drugs. Its nothing personal Moms and Dads the child needs help and needs someone they can talk to without being judged. To scream cry and be upset in front of your child only adds to their emotional state which in turns leads to more cutting. Children need to know this is not acceptable but they cant be made feel bad over it. There is a reason they are doing it. It may take 50 counselers to find the right one but keep going you will find the one that fits your kids needs. Remember parents this isnt about you and dont take it personally you have to focus on your child.

twistedsister - try crossroads in mentor. they are pretty great!

Laurelwood has a center in Mentor near Kohls and one in Willoughby next to Lake West. It wasn't all that long ago that I went to Madison. I don't know if the schools have changed at all but they weren't much help back then.

I would call there, I've seen kids in there and a teen group.

Yes schannel I know you are and I really appreciate all the feed back.Thank You

twisted, my stepdaughter wouldn't talk either. she wasn't cutting, but doing other self destructive things. keep trying, insist that she attend counseling, eventually, she will break & talk to someone. don't stop, don't give up...........laurelwood in willoughby deals with kids as well, i know a few kids who have been there........as young as 11.

again, you also might want to consider another school district entirely through open enrollment. although the closest for you is perry and i don't believe they accept open enrollment. keep trying, keep praying.

twistedsister, hope your girl is doing alright been thinking and praying about her and you.

take it easy on yourself, but don't give up.