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As I was watching Officer Miktarian's funeral on the news, one of the speakers at the funeral read something from Officer Miktarian's high school year book that as a graduating senior he had written.  It just pierced my heart.   I don't remember it verbatim, but in essence Officer Miktarian wrote that he  wanted to fight for "equal justice" for oppressed people.  It made me cry.

I feel in my heart that "this officer" respectfully approached  "this suspect" as a citizen of the United States of America with certain rights and priviledges.  But this low-down, trigger-happy thug shot him down like a dog in the street.   And if the evidence is true, Officer Miktarian didn't even draw his weapon - his gun was still in his holster.

Unlike Obama and Cosby, as an African-American, I'm not one for "preaching" and "lecturing" to the "race" - the act removes "personal accountability" from those who CHOOSE to contribute to the social ills of America and allows bigots to use the well-intended messages to justify their racist behavior and views. 

But I would like to share a message with young people - especially our African-American males - one their parents and the schools don't seem to be getting across to them.  When YOU decide to carry guns and disobey the laws of the land, you are now stepping onto the domain of the police and they are not out there to put up with your “bull” and "second guess" your intentions.   Aiming guns, cars, etc., at any law enforcement officer could cost you your life—because at the end of the day, these dedicated men and women want to go home to their love ones and not fall victim to the  “gangsta”  mentality and lifestyle SOME of you have so boldly  “chosen” to embrace.

The next time someone in "the community" complains of deadly force - remind them of Officer Miktarian and the other Cleveland officer that was killed not too long ago. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! 

As for the suspect - can we all say DEATH PENALTY?

May we all continue to pray for the family of Officer Miktarian and all of the families of fallen police officers.

...and I'm so sorry for your lost too.    I do hope that you had someone to talk to or that you received some type of grief counseling.   What you went through can affect you for many years to come.

I feel for that young father too.  He lost so much so quickly.  He's going to need a lot of family support and counseling too.  Lord knows the pain and grief he has to bear.

Take good care of yourself and your little one Chandon.

PS - I posted a blog because your "comment" box hasn't been activated.

What a tragedy.   Another young couple probably overwhelmed by the  responsibilities of raising a young family.   It appears that they were trying to do the right thing by staying together but it was just too much for them. 

The article noted that the mother was going to school to be a nurse's aide and the father worked.   If we could only get  young people to understand that its' best to start a family AFTER they have prepared themselves vocationally and financially - and even then there could still be problems.

My heart goes out to them and their families.  Such an awful tragedy.

Let your mother help you as much as possible.    If you decide to keep your baby, you are going to need the support of all adults in your family.   Now is the time to listen and learn from your mistake.  This is not the time to fantasize about family life with your boyfriend and his family.  As you young people say - now is the time to "keep it real."

If you don't have the support of your family, I hate to say it,  but you and your baby are destined for a life of welfare and poverty.  I am a school counselor and I've seen it too many times - young girls trying to raise children on their own - they eventually end up in the system on welfare, subsidized housing, etc., starting  a cycle of poverty that they just can't get out of.   Because these young girls are not prepared to raise children, their children end up with Children's Services or years of being passed back and forth between foster homes.

With the support of your mother and other family members, I pray that you are able to stay at home with your Mom and continue your education so that you can have a vocation that allows YOU to become an independent young lady  who can provide the type of lifestyle that's positive and stable for you and your child.

But most of all, Dmegirl, if you do not feel in your heart that you are prepared to raise a child, for whatever reason, (lack of family support, no desire to raise child, etc.) don't feel ashamed or be afraid to consider and talk to your Mom about other options like adoption.

Good luck sweet girl, and God bless.

Victim:           Precious, Innocent 12 Year Old Asteve'e "Cookie" Thomas

Shooters:     Eric Wilson, 35 and James Yhonquea, 20

Comment:    If found quilty -  DEATH PENALTY for both - beyond a shadow  of   doubt!

What the Community Needs to Do:    Prior to and during the trial, organize marches and DEMAND that the shooters be executed...no plea bargins.   The people marched in the 60s to combat racism and the Klan; do it now to send a strong message to drug dealers and gangbangers - no matter what race they are.   It is time for inner-city residents to stop "sleeping with the enemy."    Most indiviudals who CHOOSE to sell drugs and gangbang are not victims of any society ill.  They have CHOSEN an I''m-gonna-get-mine-at-all-cost" attitude about life.  I think it's time that society shows them the consequences and what the Bible means when it says - "the wages of sin are death."   Enough is enough.  Organize and take Action...take it to the streets.

Children today definitely do not have respect for the law and most have not been taught how to set boundaries for themselves nor how to deal with peer pressure.  Most of them don’t even respect their parents – and the PARENTS don’t command or demand respect.    Many children come from such dysfunctional backgrounds - they don't stand a chance.  Many are raising themselves.

But it isn’t always the fault of parents.   There are young people who come from some of the best families you can imagine.  But for some reason, when they’re “out of site” of mom and dad, they forget everything they’ve been taught NOT to do and DO just what they want.

Young people just don’t think about the consequences of their actions  and unfortunately, the consequences in this incident were a family's worst nightmare.

The incorrigible teenagers involved in this weekend's tragic high-speed car chase will only be locked up until they are 21 – if that.   They WON'T be rehabilitated so at 21 they WILL re-enter society – and then -  heaven help us all.

Some people have suggested that the age for the death penalty should be lowered.   Do we really want to become a nation that electrocutes adolescent teenagers?

What’s the answer?   Can the problems of our youth be simply assigned to poor parenting or is there a larger and more complex societal issue to consider?

In reference to Bill Martin’s “Last One Please Turn Out the Lights”  - as typical in these situations where blacks and whites are concerned, the ignorant bigots like Bill Martin and his followers come out and want to start talking about crime and people leaving the city.   Let them go – as if  them damn vanilla suburbs are such crimeless havens and bastilles of moral decency. The wealth is there and that’s all.  The absence of ethics and moral fiber is just as bad – if not worst – than in the city. White people carry on about the crimes of other ethnic groups as if they don’t have the propensity for crime – what a laugh. Crime doesn’t matter until they become a victim and for some reason it takes on “added” meaning if the culprit is of  “another race.” 

Self-righteous Bill and his racist media-cohorts growled and scowled through the Jessie Davis/Bobby Cutts tragedy – but notice how low-key they became when the Penoit murder/suicide (this is the rich white guy that killed his wife, young son, and then himself) flashed across the TV screens of America.   I don’t’ care what the “stats” are -  white people commit far too much crime to be color-coating it by race.  

As I said in a previous blog – as an African-American female I didn’t have a problem with the councilman’s actions.  After reading the blogs though, I am now reconsidering my stance.   As I noted before, how many other delinquents – black, white, Hispanic, etc., received such letters?  And if white folks are so gung-BLEEP about crime, WHY haven’t their councilpersons sent letters to the white thugs in their communities?  There have certainly been enough of them in the news lately.  WHY all of a sudden is this white councilperson being held up as some sort of great white super hero and the mother under attack? 

When I was in college, a white FBI agent told me and another classmate that when the powers-that-be really get serious about gun control and drug dealing (as well as other crimes) in this country – it won’t be the poor black boys on the corner and other minorities that fill up the jails – it will be rich white males and the crime syndicates they back.

I think Bill Martin, this councilman, and other whites need to be careful where they throw their race-biased stones. They, as well as others, better learn to take a more constructive and humane approach to the delinquent behavior of minority teenagers as historically has been done for white delinquents.   If they can’t, they’re the ones playing the race card, not African-Americans.

I am an African-American female and I agree with the councilman's letter.  In my day, had one of my brother's received a letter like that, my parents would've turned to my brother and said - "What in the hell do you have to say for yourself youngman?"  And then my father and even my mother would've taken action to HELP him improve his deliquent behavior - and it would not be a pretty site.

This mother has been given an opportunity to challenge her son.  Even if she doesn't agree with the councilman and how he has chosen to handle this situation, I wouldn't be complaining to the media about it - I would tell my son BUDDY, YOU ASKED FOR THIS!  And then I would deal with him and his behavior  - not Councilman Polensik's.

But I do have this one concern for the councilman - how many other delinquents - black, white, hispanic, etc., have you sent such letters to?   If you don't want people to be able to play the "race card," you'd better damn well be fair and equal with your approach or you'll come across as just another racist, self-righteous white person reacting to the crime of a particular minority group as if your own race doesn't have the propensity for crime as well.