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by libragws from cleveland

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There is an old saying "It takes an entire village to raise a child". We need to provde an environment where children can learn to be good citizens and encourage them to do so. However all those good intentions are wasted if the parent/guardian of the children provide opposition to those values whether by example or by apathy. Children often immitate their idols. If thier 'idols' is not the parent(s), but instead the local gangster, drug dealer or even a celebrity that endorses drug use and/or violence, then their perception of right and wrong becomes skewed. Once the child forms his/her opinions of right and wrong, good and bad,  it is a monumentous task to effect change if not impossible in some instances. Bottom line: parents need to take responsibility as well as society. Both parents and society need to stop glamourizing 'gangsters' and hoodlums and others that exemplify anti social behavior and start teaching children right from wrong. Show them there are grave consequences for antisocial behavior and great rewards for becomming a good citizen. Parents need to step up and be the hero for their children and lead them down the right path. If the parents do not want to take responsibility, then the 'village' needs step in and hold them responisble as well as the child. Apathy and ambilvalence will no longer be an acceptable way of raising a child. Antisocial behavior endagers not just the child, but society as a whole is at risk. We are the future victims of the crimes that these children end up commiting.  I for one do not want to be a victim or statistic!!
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drey read my blog
Apr 26, 2007 | 6:22 PM

We can send our children overseas to fight, Shoot, kill and blow cities up killing thousands to see thing are way. But we can't spank them here at home when they need displine?

ciesta read my blog view my photos
Apr 26, 2007 | 6:35 PM

I'm responsible if my dog digs up/damages someone's property...How much more can I ultimately be responsible for my kids' behaviors in some cases...?

I am certainly not responsile for someone else's kid's miserable behaviors.

Wernerd630 read my blog view my photos
Apr 26, 2007 | 7:09 PM

Hey, if I can't smoke, parents can go to jail.

drey read my blog
Apr 26, 2007 | 7:20 PM

Wernerd630---- I heard that!!!!! you tell them!!!! If my dog took a crap in your yard, I get Fined $500.00. But if my kid did the same thing, I'm not resposible? seems clear to me!

nikkiautumn read my blog
Apr 26, 2007 | 11:45 PM

LOL! Funny blogs! It's all the truth anymore though. I know raising teenagers is not easy for any parent. But, I do feel there is help out there for parents, if they seek it.

I had an 8 year old who was out of control! It took me many visits and a whole lot of time to find the right people to help! It almost took me A YEAR to be exact. I would have never stopped searching for the answer to this day, if I had to. He is now a happy 9 1/2 year old and I am a happy, proud, and well educated parent! (Becoming a parent does not come with a manual! You must SEEK it and then figure out which "version" is the correct one for yourself and your children!) It took a lot of work, CONSISTENCY, CONSISTENCY, CONSISTENCY, CONSISTENCY consistency, consistency, consistency (can't say that one enough), and A LOT OF MY TIME! It was worth every minute of it! If your child knows what will happen EVERY time he breaks a "house rule" or does something he is not suppose to he will be more likely to face the punishment and less likely to do it again. I use the fact that every child has something they love, and if you break a rule you loose each thing in order of importance and for a length specified by how wrong the act they committed was. There is no discussing it, IT IS DONE!

I also can say, at this point, I don't need to hit him. My minister explained to me that parents should almost never have to use the "rod" if they are parenting correctly, the child should "fear" the rod so much that you shouldn't HAVE TO USE IT!

I think the law they are discussing should have some bound

nikkiautumn read my blog
Apr 26, 2007 | 11:46 PM

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I think the law they are discussing should have some boundaries that is for sure! Parents who have proven that they are trying to seek help and done there best to correct bad situations should get a break. Of course, first time offenders would need some sort of break too in my opinion.

Something has to be done these days that is all I know. Maybe for these parents who HAVE tried everything, when faced with a court date for their child, should be ordered by the court to admit their child to military school! Instead of sending these young easily influenced children, one after another, to juvenile detention centers where they learn the life of a criminal at an even younger age! Our juvenile reform system definitely needs some REFORM of it's own.

Speaking from experience as a "step-mother" of a 16 and 19 year old. Lord help us all! What more can be said!

drey read my blog
Apr 27, 2007 | 12:21 AM

Nikki, if you unattended your dog and it attacked someone. You would be aressted, fined, then sued and possibly put in jail. If your chid attacked someone, shuldnt the parent be responsible?

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