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I,m asking this is because i have two friends a male and female who feel that they have to go trough cheating. cayching dieases and abuse to keep the love of there lifes they feel if they dont have a mate they can't function. i feel there wrong youi dont need a mate to succeed all you need is your self and the help from God on your side only you can come a success now if you want a mate he can just be there to share it or push you to do better but not make you a success. so i feel do anybody need a mate to be a success and complete there life.
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jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Dec 3, 2008 | 12:01 PM

You are absolutly right dreaa, it is nice to have someone by your side but not necessary. I also have a close friend who is going through something very similar. They need to love themselves before someone else can love them and once they find it in themselves God will bless them with someone to love them. All you can do is be there for them and listen and care, we can't change their minds or force them to leave, they need to do that on their own. Just be a friend and pray for them and hope that if diseases are a part of this that they don't suffer a life threatening one. It's hard to watch people you love make such hard mistakes and not be able to fix it but one day they will come around and see their errors. Pray for them hon.

girlscout read my blog view my photos
Dec 3, 2008 | 2:24 PM

That is why it is important to teach our daughters that they do not need a man to "complete" them. It is wonderful to find a partner in life to love and share things with. But we must teach our girls to be independent and self-sufficient, so that one day they can find the "right" man that will walk along with them in life as equals.

jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Dec 3, 2008 | 2:52 PM

AMEN girlscout! That is absolutly correct. To many woman depend on men to take care of them or whatever. My mom was a stay at home mom for years till my dad was diagnosed with MS and then she went to work but she raised me to be independant and not depend on a man for anything. I may struggle but I do it by myself and it makes me mad when I hear females talking about the stupid men that pay thier bills and give them money and stuff or even my best friend who just found out that her fiance is "bi-sexual"(yea right, he's gay) but she won't leave him because she doesn't want to move back in with her parents and lose everything they've got. Sad thing is, she's alot stronger than she realizes and can do it by herself but she doesn't want to struggle so she's trying to deal with the situation. I don't see a good ending for that one but ok. Young girls are misled these days, because they think these guys want to take care of them but they don't realize what they have to give up in order for that to happen. They have no self-respect and unfortunatly a good, decent and honest man is a diamond in the rough these days. They all want to be something their not or they want to hustle, very few guys have the determination or want to go to school and work hard to get what they want, they would rather stand on a corner and hustle for their money and the sad thing is, the majority of the one's out there now haven't even hit puberty yet. They keep getting younger and younger.

girlscout read my blog view my photos
Dec 3, 2008 | 3:09 PM

A good man is as hard to find as a good parking spot.
All the good ones are taken, and the only ones left are handicapped!

dreaa37 read my blog view my photos
Dec 3, 2008 | 4:05 PM

Girls i know that right and as for your friend with the gay guy i hope she srap up and i hope he do to. but yeah she can doit by her self shr dont need him to do it women are stronger then they think they just need to step out the box and go for it. So this is what we need to teach our girls get yours and be on top and when that man come along all he would see is a strong women and an equal. I hope

jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 8:56 AM

Absolutly, both my girls are strong and I hope they stay that way and I hope and pray everyday that I am a good example of an independant woman.

GS....never heard it put like that before but that's a good one!

HybridTalk read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 9:40 AM

In the beginning, it was determined that it really isn't good to be going it alone.

Gen 2:18 The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

Also consider Ecclesiastes 4

9 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their work:

10 If one falls down,
his friend can help him up.
But pity the man who falls
and has no one to help him up!

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I would not be where I am today without my fantastic wife.

girlscout read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 9:59 AM

And you are blessed, hybrid. And so am I.
But the point is that our daughters should be able to survive on their own and not depend on a man to get them through life. My younger daughter is still looking for the love of her life. Luckily, she has enough self-esteem and intelligence to weed out the bad apples from the good. (She just dumped a bad apple this summer). And even though her biological time clock is ticking, she will not settle for any bad apples.

jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 11:28 AM

Hybrid, you are lucky as was my mom and dad, however being 32 years old, the crop is not so prime for picking. It's hard for the younger generation to find a good man or good woman for that matter. The sad thing is as my daughters grow up it's going to be worse for them, I fear for them and as much as I wish that they find true love, I fear that it's going to be very hard for them. In your generation people valued marriage and took their vows seriously, now a days people get married and divorced in the same month. To many it's not sacred anymore and that is very sad to me because I was raised to love, honor and cherish, till death do you part and it was death that parted my parents. I love having my man, he's my best friend, confidant, and lover, however I don't depend on him to help me financially, I work hard and take care of myself and children because no one is promised to be here tomorrow and if I soley depended on him then where would I be if he left???? screwed! So therefore woman should be able to stand on their own and if they do find someone to share their life with than fantastic but they always have something to fall back on IF something happens to the other.

chemist24 read my blog
Dec 4, 2008 | 12:17 PM

Here here girlscout and jigsgirl... I am 32 years old and newly single because the man that I spent the last 2 years with decided he wasn't able to make a commitment..

Luckily I own my home and I have a great job, and great friends and family... I have no need for a man in my life, it would be nice to have someone to help out and be around but it is by no means necessary for my survival...


Hybrid, I think that even you would agree that it is better to go at it alone than to be stuck with someone that does not respect you or consider your needs. Or in some cases be with someone that is abusive...

Besides, that's why batteries were invented right? LOL

jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 12:24 PM

lol chemist, you are right about the batteries, and you go girl, handle your business. When the time is right God will send you the person he has planned for you, until then there will mistakes and heartache, unfortunatly. Keep going though and you will look back at this one day and thank God for his blessing.

HybridTalk read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 1:02 PM

Jigsaw – “I love having my man, he's my best friend, confidant, and lover, however I don't depend on him to help me financially, I work hard and take care of myself and children because no one is promised to be here tomorrow and if I soley depended on him then where would I be if he left???? Screwed,”

I suppose. My wife stayed home when we had children and left behind a high paying job. We were there for each other every day. Why don’t the young people want to do the same? When the last of the children became adults my wife went back to work, and we paid off the large debt we generated over those many years. The key for us is to be self-sacrificing toward each other. Maybe today’s generation didn’t learn that lesson, or maybe it is our faith in Christ that brings us to put the other first. In truth, Jesus is the third party in our marriage, and He is the party that makes it all work.

While we might be able to each get along by ourselves, life is greater with the pair of us together in marriage. (Your mileage may vary)

HybridTalk read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 1:24 PM

Chemist “Hybrid, I think that even you would agree that it is better to go at it alone than to be stuck with someone that does not respect you or consider your needs. Or in some cases be with someone that is abusive...”

To a great extent, what you say may be true. I was “alone” until I met my wife-to-be and just knew she was the one. It took years to convince her of this fact, but in the end love won the day. If not for her, I might never have married.

But I wasn’t going to just settle for anyone, and actually had other women making proposals to me (well, they may have been more like ultimatums) but I declined because I could see those relationship were going to fail.

”Besides, that's why batteries were invented right? LOL”

Like for the radio, and MP3 players?

jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 2:56 PM

I do agree with you hybrid, but somewhere along the line, morals and values became virtually non existant. My parents were the same way, my mom stayed home with us until my dad was diagnosed with MS, was laid of his job and could no longer support our family, at that point my mom went back to work to help. They definatly instilled the value of family in me, however until 8 years ago, I had not felt that anyone was I felt was good enough for me and my children. (yes I did it alittle backwards, and even though I was 18 I in no way shape or form regret my children) I will not marry unless I know that is the man that I will spend the rest of my life with, I do not personally believe in divorce, I feel that my man is someone that I could share my life with and has been my longest relationship so there's a good chance but that has to be felt on both parties. We have talked about it but nothing yet. He knows how I feel about marriage and he married young and is divorced so I think that he is scared to marry again. There is an older couple that walks around my neighborhood every morning holding hands and smiling, collecting cans that are thrown in the yards and street and I want that, I want to be them 30/40 years from now. I want the love that I see in their eyes for each other, it brings tears to my eyes when I see them because it is so beautiful and they are so happy, not to mention the sweetest couple ever to. I congratulate you and your wife for your longevity(sp) that is amazing and I wish all the love and happiness to you both.

LOL...no music comes out of what chemist is

dreaa37 read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 4:13 PM

Everyone has some good comments and as for the one guy i congrate you on your love but as all the others say yeah it's hard to find but when you do find it i just do not want to depend on him i want us to be as one and if we decide to part we both can stand on our own two feet. and yes batteries are handy if you need them LOL

girlscout read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 4:51 PM

Hey jigsgirl - do you live in my neighborhood?
That was probably my hubby and I walking and collecting cans! LOL~!
(Just kidding - although my hubby does collect cans!)
We just celebrated our 38 Anniversary a few weeks ago!! And I still have the "hots" for him! LOL

jbar48 read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 8:11 PM

It is way too much of a burden to put on another human being-making them responsible for your happiness and completeness. No one else completes you, no one else is responsible for your happiness. Find out first who you are and what makes you happy. The person who fits in with you will find you and he or she will not make you responsible for his happiness either. Nor will it be your task to complete him.

dreaa37 read my blog view my photos
Dec 4, 2008 | 8:43 PM

Iknow that's right jbar48.

jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Dec 5, 2008 | 9:47 AM

LOL girlscout! They are the cutest couple though! Congrats on the anniversary and I hope you never lose that feeling.

jbar you are correct in what you said. You have to love yourself before anyone else can and that is exactly what I teach all my kids especially my girls. They have to love and respect themselves or no one else will and the boys they are growing up with seem to have no respect at all. My middle child, oldest daughter, is 11 and it amazes me that boys her age are talking about sex and different sexual things and a**es and things that we didn't really know to much about till we were 16/17. It scares me. There is no respect and I don't care how much these boys pressure, my daughter tells them she is not fast so leave her alone. Thank God!!! I want my girls especially to be proud of what they have and be able to stand on their own, on the other side of that I wish for all of them to find the truest and purest love as well. but what parent doesn't wish that for their kids.

wbecky read my blog
Dec 7, 2008 | 6:30 PM

hi everyone I'm new at this but i was reading all your comments. They are all good and nice. I would like to say a couple of things I'm 47 and I've never been married. I don't have any kids just my dog and my bird. I've lived part of my life in the sin world. But thank GOD i'm now serving him and trusting in him. I do think that some day god will send me someone. I'm doing good right now I've bought my own house 4 years ago and god helps me ever day. There are times that it is really hard but god is always there to help me. Without him i would have nothing. I do wish that some day god would send me a nice christain man my way. Thank you for letting me post this for guys. GOD BLESS YOU ALL

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just a hardworking women who enjoy reading and hanging out with my family and most of all speaking and teaching young girls about there minds and accomplishment they can make in life with or with out a child. And i love going to church which i will reprosent Faith Temple on the eastside of akron on Sylvain st that has been a great accomplishment to me and still im working on getting closer to god cause i know with out him there will not be alot of good things in my life. Oh yeah i,m a pround mom of a 19 year old son who i love so dearly and proud of and come join Talk with Ms. dreaa-http://dreaas.ning.
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