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Sep 25, 2008 | 9:18 PM
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While I sit here typing this, my house is so quiet.  My son moved back in with his mother.  Ahhhhh!  Peace & Quiet!!!  I am thinking about writing a book about my experience as a father and divorcee.  So I won't go into all the details and complaints.  Just wondered about you all, do you have kids?  If so are they a pleasure or a pain?

Dave

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dickblack read my blog
Sep 30, 2008 | 7:54 AM

One is pleasure, the other two are a pain, they like to ask for money. Im retired, and they seem to think everytime i get my check, they gotta ask dad for money, and they all work and make good money. My kids are all in there early 30s and ive been single for over 20 years, AND I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
dprin339 read my blog view my photos
Sep 30, 2008 | 3:12 PM

hubby & i have 6 between us. we are starting to see the signs of the "empty nest" coming already.

they have ALL been pains from time to time (some worse than others) and they have all been a pleasure as well.

it's hard to let them go & be adults, but we have to, for them.

looking forward to more grandchildren though. we already have 1 & he is the light of my life!
polarbear_88 read my blog view my photos
Oct 1, 2008 | 1:31 AM

If only we could ask Sara Pallin about this one!! I'm sure she can name ONE that is a pain! LOL!!
jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Oct 2, 2008 | 1:05 PM

I have 3 and for the most part they are all the joys of my life, but my baby girl is a PAIN!! She likes to test me on everything and she has a very short temper and a bad adittude problem (clone of her father) I figure since I haven't killed him yet, she's safe....lol. But in all seriousness, pains or not I cannot imagine how empty my life would be without them. True blessings!
CAKhomelodge read my blog view my photos
Oct 3, 2008 | 6:57 PM

they are just like grown ups -( a pain at times, at times a joy, they can make your heart swell with pride one minute ..and break your heart the next) I miss my son- we haven't been close since I divorced his cheating dad. my x cost me my son. He was a really great kid at one time......
jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Oct 6, 2008 | 9:04 AM

I am so sorry to hear that CAK, how old is your son? That is a painful situation, cause you did what was best for you and kudos to that but the consequences you paid were far worse. You were in a catch 22, no matter what you did someone was going to be hurt, maybe when he's a little older(i am assuming his in his teens or younger) you can sit down and talk to him and explain why you did what you did. because of the bond that a mother shares and will always share with her child I am sure he is just angry but at the same time he misses you to. No one can comfort or take the place of a mother, we can love our kids in a way that no one can. Just pray and trust in God hon and you two will find your way back to each other.
CAKhomelodge read my blog view my photos
Oct 7, 2008 | 7:47 PM

thanks jigs- but he is 35 years old - and this happened when he was 17- he knew his dad was cheating- but I am the one who lost everything- the old toad married the sl--.and my son went on a trip to Hawaii with them as he tricked me into taking care of his cats while he went tpo play with them. at the same time I was carring for his cats my rottweiler died- my son showed no emotion towards me except to say- sorry about Montana'- other stuff took place... we just are strangers anymore- I don't know this person anymore- he is rude, unfriendly, cold, callouse, bitter, hateful..on on . it's plain-I've lost him.
davidambro read my blog
Oct 7, 2008 | 9:32 PM

Dear CAKhomelodge; I have to be brief here. I had similar experience with a cheating wife and kids who grew up the same as your boy. In my case the courts did not back up the divorce decisions. Visitation was not enforced. She emptied our joint bank account and her attorney tried to get her everything else I had left, even future pay checks...! She did not pay the bills the judge had ordered her to, and they fell to me; again, this was not enforced. My CS payments were increased! The kids do not respect me as their father. They have had several step dads since the divorce. My health has suffered. I have issues with trust, and never felt I had enough money to date anyone either... So I live alone and have learned to enjoy the peace and quiet. I live the lifestyle of the contented, being content with whatever I have...
davidambro read my blog
Oct 7, 2008 | 9:39 PM

Part 2. I know the above sounds bad or sad but it isn't for me. The only thing I miss is having someone who is willing to clean the house and assist with filing those things I need to keep. I am trying to downsize, so that I can do this all myself. Diabetes, depression, sleep apnea, a bad back, morbid obesity and high blood pressure have conspired to prevent me from entertaining the idea of a adult relationship. No one wants a sexless marriage (relationship). There is a lot to be said about the tranquility one has living alone though. Oh, and I am not going to write a book about the divorce etc... I may also delete these replies of mine, as I don't like ocmplaining. Don't be surprised therefore if they are gone one day soon. Dave :)
CAKhomelodge read my blog view my photos
Oct 7, 2008 | 11:51 PM

I am sorry for your circumstances...I understand all to well. I too enjoy living alone. everbody complains/ blows off steam. we all go through trials and hardship- that's life. good things do come and lift us up and give us renewed hope to get us out of dispare. just trust god Dave. he is ONE who won't let you down. people will, jobs will, circumstances will, bad health will- but God never will.
davidambro read my blog
Oct 8, 2008 | 5:07 AM

I just wanted you to know you aren't alone. That there was at least someone who understands. I do believe in God and pray often. I feel sorry for the athiests and agnostics who don't have this 'crutch' to fall back on. It is their loss. God sustains us. Those of us who wish to believe in Him. Dave
jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Oct 8, 2008 | 10:21 AM

Cak..I'm so sorry about your son, I didn't realize it was that serious. My heart and prayers go out to you. Dave, you as well but both of you have your faith and because of that you will never be alone. God will provide for you and take care of you. Dave, you take care of yourself and your health. That is the most important thing you can do right now for yourself.
davidambro read my blog
Oct 8, 2008 | 10:42 AM

Divorce when children are involved... I just don't know how to say this. How terrible it is. I have questions, like how can a spouse have affairs when they have children? How can they risk destroying the bond that their spouse has with his/her kids? I believe we have children with the thought of being there for them, having some major influence in their lives. Earning their respect and trust. Divorce destroys those possiblities. Lawyers and judges have made it too easy to divorce. They have made it lucrative and tempting, in these modern times; to divorce. The media, the advertisements, and magazines, movies... glamorize affairs. Marriage has become passe'. Affairs and independence from a spouse have become the norm. Having the best "O", as they used to say... Dave
jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Oct 8, 2008 | 12:53 PM

Dave, unfortunatly you are absolutly correct. It is to easy to divorce. People don't respect the vows they take and "till death do us part" are only words, they no longer hold any type of weight. All relationships have their ups and downs, and especially now with the economy the way it is, money is a major problem with people but I believe that if you love someone enough to stand in front of God and speak those vows that you can get through anything together. I never really understood affairs. Cheating on someone while dating, Ok, not as big a deal but when your married??? thats just wrong, and like you said especially when there's children involved because no matter how you explain it, the kids suffer the most and tend to blame one of the parents, usually the one who did nothing wrong, for the divorce. I am in my early 30's and because of the way I was raised, I don't personally believe in divorce, that's one of the major reasons why my boyfriend and I after 8 years are not yet married. I feel as though we have things we need to work out individually and together and when the time is right it will happen but I have told him how I feel about marriage and why and he understands so hopefully one day everything will work itself out and we will get married but not till we both are ready. Relationships are just hard, sometimes it would be easier to be single...lol
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