INDEPENDENT'S BLOG

I've decided that after having several conversations with my boss, that by me being black and she being white, there are just some things we don't understand about each other. My boss and i have a really good relationship, we consider ourselves to be friends. But on occasion we do get into little heated debates, and although we respect each other sometimes we just don't get each other. Race is such a touchy subject, atleast for me it used to be, I would say in the last year or so i feel like i've grown to understand more of the"other side". One example is during the recent election, of course there has been alot of racially motivated blogs concerning President Obama, and for the most part i stayed away, i was finding it hard to express how i felt without someone calling me an "obamatron", or calling him "the one", or even referring to people who supported Obama as "followers", it was very frustrating. My question to her was, "why is it if i as a black person support obama then it must be because he's black? She said that she felt like 99% of blacks that voted for him did so because of his race!! What!! 99%, i was thinking about 40 to 50 percent, because i'm not that naive i know alot of people of color voted for him and they could not tell you 1 thing that Obama stands for, but what about the 40 or 50% who made an informed decision like myself? To be quite honest though i was not voting republican in this race anyway if he were purple i would of voted for him..lol...Another thing she brought up is the whole "why isn't he considered half white"...umm he is, he is biracial but according to some law that i don't have proof of but i was told this all my life that if you're father is black so are you. And IMO i don't think anyone is trying to downplay his white side but just making the black side more apparent....make sense? The way i see it we may never understand each other in the way we preceive race but isn't it our job to respect others views and opinions, and not downplay one race to make the other seem superior? Since this election i've been faced with being soooo iritated by some people of my own race, it seems as though some people are actually gloating because Obama won, it's irritating to me. Well i'm gonna stop now but i'm interested in what other people think.

I decided to write this blog today in response to several of you fellow bloggers who for whatever reason seem to think you deserve an explaination of why there is a black history month and no white history month. First of all let me say this you will not get the answer you are looking for because apparently your looking for the person who made the holiday legal and you'll have to consult them on the Y's!! secondly let me say that PERSONALLY i do believe that people are people and we should not look at color but character!! With that being said though i do not feel there is anything wrong with being proud of who you are and embracing your heritage. Which brings me to my next point that people on here always want to scream reverse racism whenever a person of color tries to defend themselves by asking why not have BHM? And for whatever reason the people on this blog seem to take it personally. I have not yet to this date (and again speaking for myself only) heard a black person say this is our holiday, our month you can't participate, it's absolutely unbelievable the comments i keep reading and i just think it's sad! I honestly in my heart believe that BHM is designed to bring awareness of the black race, not saying that people don't know blacks exist, but the awareness that many things that we use in our day to day lives you may not know that a black person invented it, or maybe an event that may have been left out of your history class you may learn about it during black history month,,and my thing is this i know alot of people don't understand why you would need a month to recognize these things, but you have to realize, and this is fact, that in the past alot of blacks have not gotten the props they deserve and it's because someone else took credit for their work! And alot of people of color still have to fight for respect and acknoledgement(sp?) another sublect people seem to have a problem with is the uncf and this confuses me, because back in the day when the uncf was founded it was to help underpriveleged minorities go to college when they thought all hope was lost because they were poor. it's just like any other scholarship and you have to apply and be accepted, now there are several grants and scholarships that can be applied for and there are certain criteria that you have to have before being a reciprient so whats the difference?if white people as a race want an wcf then dammit write a proposal to the government!! Ok i'm gonna wrap this up but i wanted to end this blog by sayin I am not now nor have i ever been racist, i don't like racist and wish not ot be linked to one! i have in the past lost my temper with some people on this blog and SOMETIMES i feel bad about that, but the constent bickering about who has what and who gets what, so unnecessary. I wish not to have any personal grudges against anyone on these blogs and truthfully i can't because i really don't know any of you but from what i see day to day i realy don't like some of you! These blogs are starting to make me so bitter and i didn't used to be that way, i am a kind and very easy to get along with person and sometimes i loose my cool but i do like some of you guys you seem to have an open mind and respect peoples opinion and i like that! I would also like to take this opportunity to apologize to anyone i amy have called out of there names because i was angry because that's not the type of person i am i do get angry and i will curse, but calling names is childish and i will not do that again, but in no way do i ever Personally attack anyone about their lifestyle or race i would appreciate the same!!

I HAVE ALOT OF GIRLS CLOTHES HARDLY WORN SIZE 3T,4T,5T, AND I WANT THEM TO GO TO SOMEONE WHO REALLY NEEDS THEM MY DAUGHTER IS GROWING SO FAST AND I DON'T HAVE ANYONE TO HAND THEM DOWN TO, I  WAS GOING TO TAKE THEM TO GOODWILL OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT BUT THEY SELL THE CLOTHES AND I WANT THEM TO GO TO SOMEONE FOR FREE, I DON'T WANT MONEY FOR THEM I JUST WANT SOME LITTLE GIRL TO HAVE THESE CLOTHES THAT ARE GENTLY WORN AND VERY CUTE! IF ANYONE KNOWS WHERE I CAN TAKE THEM THAT THEY WILL BE GIVEN AWAY RATHER THAN SOLD OR IF ANYONE HERE CAN USE THEM LET ME KNOW. AND I KNOW THIS IS NOT NEWS BUT ALOT MORE PEOPLE LOOK AT THIS CATEGORY.

Hey local fox people I have a bit of a situation and i'm hoping to get some good advice from people who don't know me.

Here's the situation , I am a 30 year old woman with a daughter,I am legally married to her father but unfortunetely we are not together, crazy thing is we havn't been together since '99 and we had her after we were spit up for 4 years. We have never gotten a divorce and so pretty much i'm a single married woman! During the course of our seperation we have both had other relationships(before you ask took a blood test she is his!) I however have not had any serious relationships not even a boyfriend! he has had some relationships that i believe he was serious about even though he claims he still loves me! My problem is that i still love him, i have never stopped, i have still had intimate relations with this man the entire time we've been apart(which is going on 10 years now) he has told me in the past that we would never get back together because pretty much i'm the one who broke it off because i felt i was to young to be married and he blaims me for our relationship not working out. I'm 30 now and I know back then i wasn't ready to be married(by the way he is 5 years older than me)but i am now. I love him and i want us to be a family, how do i make him see that we can make this work if we gave it another shot? There is more to the story but maybe as i get some advice i'll be able to go into more detail, SO MY QUESTION IS DO I MOVE ON OR KEEP TRYING? 

Hey local fox people I have a bit of a situation and i'm hoping to get some good advice from people who don't know me.

Here's the situation , I am a 30 year old woman with a daughter,I am legally married to her father but unfortunetely we are not together, crazy thing is we havn't been together since '99 and we had her after we were spit up for 4 years. We have never gotten a divorce and so pretty much i'm a single married woman! During the course of our seperation we have both had other relationships(before you ask took a blood test she is his!) I however have not had any serious relationships not even a boyfriend! he has had some relationships that i believe he was serious about even though he claims he still loves me! My problem is that i still love him, i have never stopped, i have still had intimate relations with this man the entire time we've been apart(which is going on 10 years now) he has told me in the past that we would never get back together because pretty much i'm the one who broke it off because i felt i was to young to be married and he blaims me for our relationship not working out. I'm 30 now and I know back then i wasn't ready to be married(by the way he is 5 years older than me)but i am now. I love him and i want us to be a family, how do i make him see that we can make this work if we gave it another shot? There is more to the story but maybe as i get some advice i'll be able to go into more detail, SO MY QUESTION IS DO I MOVE ON OR KEEP TRYING?